This kept going round my head. ^_^" Thumper: "If you can't say somethin' nice, don't say anything at all." or useful.
Unfortunately, no matter what we do, people are always going to try to find something wrong with it. And it's caused many an artist to leave their work forever. I just hope and pray that we can implore you to persevere and not give up over the petty prattling of prejudicial panners.
Nevertheless, I'm sure you know all of this already, but either way, I wanted you to know you're a wonderful artist who is amazingly blessed.
Also, quite honestly, I have refrained myself from contacting you or asking you questions on account of the fear of being a burden. So you can add all the compliments that come to your head on your mental list of comments, because, chances are, I probably will/would have said it and meant it. To make up for it, perhaps I should go back and actually make mental compliments physical.
Love the entry on Etiquette! I agree wholeheartedly!
Also looking forward to the possibility of going to Katsucon, I'd love to shake hands, say an exuberant hello, etc., if you end up going, that is.
I hope you and your hubby are doing splendiferously!
Blessings & Prayers,
keep your head up, you're not alone my darling.
To be honest, at first I thought you were a great cosplayer and crafty in everything you do and I was right. Once I started to look at your yugioh cosplays, I thought that you could be the "perfect one." And I was right on that point too. As a huge fan of your cosplays and all the aforementioned work you've completed, I am proud to say that you are talented and full of spunk. Don't let other people downtalk you for all the hard work you've paid off, just ignore them and pretend they don't exist.
Even without the critique button, some people STILL tell you what they want to be better, whether you ask for help or not. I'm very fortunate to have not run into very many rude commentators or people who like pointing out what's wrong with everything, but as a much more popular deviant, I'd hate to know how much you have to deal with people like that. Most of them just want to troll no matter how good you are.
Your wigs and cosplay are GORGEOUS, and everyone has room for improvement, but if you're happy with something, or if you feel like YOU need to fix something, that's primarily up to you, unless, like you said, someone provides a good suggestion for what you can do.
(On a different and happier note, you were recommended when I talked to a wig booth at San Japan this weekend! I told them that I didn't have nearly the dexterity and talent that you had though, since I've been looking for people who can do wig commissions and I know you're pretty busy for commissions, but I was still pretty happy that they suggested you and mentioned how good your tutorials and such were. Congrats for being such a celebrity! X3)
P.s Thank you for your time.
When someone blatantly points out those flaws, it's like, "You're telling me something that I all ready know. You're just being a jerk about it." If said person were to tell me how I could IMPROVE for the future while not sounding negative, then I would be okay with it.
But yeah, I know how that feels. I'm nowhere near as talented of a cosplayer as most people, but I still try to do my best. Some critiques actually hurt me more than help me, so I can kind of understand where you're coming from.
If they are just doing it to be jerks, then I ignore it, but acknowledge that there are parts that could be better.
DA has been like this for a big while and I think you really should... you know... learn to ignore the negative-and-useless parts and focus on the useful part, positive and negative.
(Not really sure how to convey this message...)
Anyway, sometimes I would rather have, in quotations - "Negative" critique rather than positive on a ratio of 1:3, while it's great to get a post saying "Awesome photo man!" That's not really a critique as such for ME.
I often find the positive messages to be pretty short and lacking in information I can use to better myself as a hobbyist photographer, web developer or whatever I might be doing, while posts saying "It's too bright, it's too sharp etc." is something that I can actually use, and even if there's a hint of a sentence or message that might hurt me, it's still more valuable than the short positive "tap on the shoulder".
So my point is, (I think.)
While critique might be hurting your feelings, if there's value in that critique I would try to put my feelings away.
Also when it comes to your story about having met that person in flesh, I personally try to keep thoughts and feelings separate, in a way of "Whatever is said on dA is said on dA and not in flesh."
Hope any of this is useful, otherwise just slap me and call me crazy.
Like, I don't want to give you lip service because I respect you enough to feel I can be honest about it, and I seriously hope I don't get dogpiled for this. I don't know, maybe I'm jumping to the wrong conclusion -- is it because you take the comments too far to heart, or just that you feel the people who are bothering are terrible at critique (or are not actually aiming to critique)?
Thanks for clarifying! I hope your post helps with the comments you get, at least a little.
you can hide behind a nickname and a fake picture so noone will blame you or hate you if you post negativ things
I totaly agree on what you said
but I also think that IF you want to help by giving out your opinion (even if it is criticism) you can always put it into nice words
instead of: "Your shirt looks bad!"
you can say: "maybe you could have adjusted the size/use this material/try this pattern etc"
and also I think, if you say something negativ at least say 2 things that are positiv about it first
P.S Love your work and hope to see at a up come Con.
Actually, negativity can get so bad on here that some of the chatrooms are like "Leave drama at the door" because we want things more positive.
To end this comment on a positive note, I've apparently gotten more confident and Oli (the winged kuriboh with a squeaker I bought from you) says hi.
That's why I'm glad you seem to keep your cool and your patience about that.
But hey, you're a super cool person and a lot of people look up to ya, so keep going strong, and stay classy! Let's spread the positivity!